Anxiety & Panic, Everyday Parenting, Postnatal Depression, Raising Awareness, Uncategorized

The Tears Behind The Smiles

It really is so important not to judge others by their social media updates or compare ourselves to others, there’s always a story behind the picture.

I am always posting about social media and not to compare ourselves. I think with the summer term ending and the holidays coming up it’s important to remind ourselves of this. It’s so easy to look at pictures and status updates and feel inadequate, think we don’t do enough and judge someone else’s life from a couple of photos (which are sometimes carefully selected, maybe even altered or a filter applied) I wanted to share some images that I shared online when I was unwell with PND & Anxiety. I made sure I only ever shared pictures which had me smiling, I wanted to make sure I looked happy even though I was dying inside. There aren’t a lot of photos of me from the first few years, but of the few there are you can’t see the pain behind my eyes.


The main black & white image in this collage was taken just 10 days after a devastating miscarriage; I’d had emergency surgery and I was in pain, physically & emotionally. It was a difficult time but you wouldn’t think it if you had seen this image pop up on your feed. Or the bottom middle image, during the week following this picture I nearly ended my life. Would you look at that image and think, that’s a Mum who is severely depressed & planning her suicide? Probably not, so please don’t compare yourself, and don’t judge others by a photo, brief visit or status update, you just don’t know what’s going on behind the lens. Please reach out if you’re struggling, there’s no shame in asking for help and support – and things can get better xx

Mental illness does not discriminate, no matter who you are, what you look like or how much money you have, depression and anxiety can affect anyone. Now I can share images without worrying if the background is a mess, or if I’m a mess! I’m happy and that’s all that matters, I remember to take what I see online with a pinch of salt and that everyone is facing their own battles. We must remember to be kind and compassionate, always xxx

Please Feel free to share xx

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